After attending Asbury Theological Seminary, Jeff Reed listened to Dr. Timothy Tennent’s “Theology of the Body” sermon series on repeat. As he explored the relationship between faith, sexuality and its role within families, Jeff joined a longitudinal research project with Dr. Steve Stratton, Professor of Counseling and Pastoral Care at Asbury Seminary, on same-sex attraction on Christian campuses.
Dr. Stratton first became interested in sexual minority shortly after graduating from Asbury University, then College, in 1982.
“One pivotal moment in my intimate circle of friends involved a former college roommate. He came out to me after his marriage ended,” Dr. Stratton said. “At the time, I didn’t listen very well to my brother, but throughout my career, I worked at various counseling centers and tried to listen better to sexual minorities on a regular basis.”
For the last three years, this project has annually surveyed and interviewed college students on 14 Christian campuses across the U.S. who are trying to negotiate the complexities of developing their sexual identity and their identity as persons of faith. These students have shared their college and post-college experiences, disclosure to families and friends, and psychological health and spiritual well-being.
Jeff and nine other students at Asbury Seminary conducted and analyzed interviews with these students. In this research, they found captivating real-life stories.
“To read interview after interview with Christians who are living as a minority is incredibly insightful and revealing,” Dr. Stratton said. “You learn to understand life through their eyes.”
In addition to Dr. Stratton, the research team is composed of Dr. Mark Yarhouse (Regent University), Dr. Janet Dean (Asbury University), and Dr. Michael Lastoria (Houghton College).
“This is a way of learning how to engage culture, but also not to be afraid of it,” Dr. Stratton said. “The difference is being respectful in the way we move into situations, but not being afraid. The Gospel remains relevant, but it is best applied when we listen first and foremost. We have so much to learn from listening to remarkable students who are living at the intersection of sexual identity and religious/spiritual identity.”
Jeff interviewed students on their experience disclosing their sexual identity to their parents.
“It’s complex for how that works out for each family,” Jeff said. “There’s no one way to describe what those conversations were like. The actual disclosure to their parents would [often] get described in a really negative way, but that wasn’t how [these individuals] described the long-term relationship with their parents. So when these conversations just don’t go the way you wished, there’s hope.
